Fundraiser Q&A

Hey Everyone!

We’ve had some good questions coming in so I’ll try to provide some answers. We’re posting these on the fundraiser page, our blog, and facebook so once you’ve read it, you won’t miss anything by not reading the other two.

What Agency are you going to use?

-We’ve chosen to use Catholic Charities of Wyoming. www.charitieswyoming.org They are a non-profit adoption agency whose placement fees are based on our income (with a minimum of $5k and a maximum of $20k). Considering that for-profit agencies can charge 20k to 50k+ (and that’s not including international adoption prices), we thought this was much more attainable. Private adoptions could be even less, but we’ve been told that even the legal fees could be as high as $5k. This choice of agency is subject to change if for some unforeseen reason they do not accept our application. We’ve been through this stage before with a similar agency so we think things will go smoothly.

Why did we choose $10,000 dollars as our goal?

-First, make sure you read the Agency question right above this one. Second, this is not the exact price of an adoption, nor is it a number we pulled out of thin air. It’s a guess we’re making based on the fees from our currently chosen agency, travel costs, possible medical bills, and other incidentals (eg. background checks, fingerprinting, physicals). In all likelihood, the total cost will be more than our goal, but you didn’t think we were asking people to donate when we weren’t willing to come up with as much as we could on our own, right?

Do you have to reach your goal before you start?

-Nope! In fact we had already saved enough for the application fee before announcing this fundraiser! All that’s left to get things started is half of the $1000 home study fee. As of the time of this writing we’re over half way to that first “sub-goal” of $500. Once we reach that, we’ll get things rolling as fast as we can.

Should I tell you if I know someone who is considering placing a child for adoption?

-Absolutely Positively Unequivocally Unquestionably YES!

Feel free to continue asking us questions on facebook or our blog at www.thetolmans.net. We will make posts here from time to time when we reach milestones along our path so check back often. On the flip side of that, we’ll try not to talk your ear off either. The longest (and hardest part in our opinion) is the waiting and hoping to find and be chosen by a birth-mother. We don’t want to use up your patience with us during that phase.

We want to thank everyone who’s donated and/or shared our posts of facebook. We really appreciate it from the bottom of our hearts!

We’re Gonna Giv’er Another Go!

Kim and I have decided that we’re going to try again to adopt. If you don’t already know, we had completed the preliminary paperwork and had a completed home-study with LDS Family Services for a couple years before they stopped being an adoption agency to focus on counseling. That change was back in 2014 and we have been trying to decide what we wanted and what was the right path for us. Now we’ve determined that it’s time to try again. Unfortunately, it’s expensive. But we’re hoping with a bit of luck, and no small amount of pleading and begging, that maybe some people out there with big hearts would lend a hand. We’re going to start an online fundraiser to see if we can’t speed things up this time around. Once it’s been set up, I’ll post the link here and probably shamelessly all over social media so watch for that coming soon.

11 Years!! … Wow

I can’t believe its been 11 years since J and I got married.  I still get butterflies remembering our wedding day.

I still remember how he proposed.  We had went and picked out a ring awhile back and I wasn’t sure when he’d do it.   We were on the floor of his Phx apartment packing up since we were moving to Chicago with his friends. He got up and said “hold on, be right back”.   I stay there and finish what I’m doing.  He comes back, sits on the floor and says “Kimberly, I love you, will you make me the happiest man in the world?”  Of course I said yes.

We’ve had our challenges and trials from day 1 of getting engaged.  But we’ve also have had the best days of our lives.  As I look back and realize that some of those trials as much as I hated/disliked/couldn’t stand we had to go through them to make us stronger.

It does make me sad that I’ve not been able to bring children into our family in this time.  I know the Lord is aware of my heart and my feelings.  He’s made a promise and I know He will keep it.

Here’s to more years to come! I love you babe!
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Justin’s Birthday weekend 2015

At the beginning of the year I told Justin that I wanted to go camping this year at least twice.  As the months flew by we planted our garden and watched it thrive. Our wonderful neighbors said they’d water our lawn/garden, (they did an awesome job) I’m sure Beau had a blast turning on and off the water.  I told J the week I wanted to go (it was the weekend of his birthday) so we reserved our campsite a week before and I started making my list.

On Monday before we left to go to Cody I had a little helper help me water my garden, he found out it is funny to spray his mommy and I.  Then he wanted to carry Tempe around so I helped him :D.  J and I went to Cody as soon as he got home from work.  We went to Shiki’s for dinner since it was his birthday dinner, then we went shopping for our camping trip.

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King Crab and Yellowstone Rolls
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The noodles remind of Mongolian.  (Super YUMMY!!!)

Thursday (8/13) was his birthday and I knew his parents wanted to do a family dinner.  We invited Marce and her little boy Beau to the party.  We went and got Cecily (Brandon and Stephanies little girl) she is staying with her other grandparents since Stephanie is still with little Gage. (Stephanie was pregnant with twins Barrett and Gage. They came a few months early and Barrett went back to live with Heavenly Father. Gage is a fighter and is doing good!).  After getting Cecily we went and got Marce and Beau. It was super cute when we were on our way to J’s parents house I’d blow my nose and Cecily would want to blow her nose also, then after awhile she’d give me her Kleenex. Cecily wasn’t sure of Beau at first but she warmed up awhile later and had fun with him!  It was so fun watching them play together.
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That night we packed and prepared tin foil dinners and breakfast burritos since we were leaving the next morning. I was excited because the weather had been in the high 90’s and it was time for a cool few days. We didn’t get up there till after 1 and it was a little cooler then it was down in town, but not much. His parents came and joined us for dinner that night.
Saturday night Justin went to air up the air mattress and not even 10 seconds later it popped. That night I kept hearing some scratching and running around and J goes “its just squirrels” and I believed him.
Sunday it was cold!  We were wearing our jackets all day and by 3 I needed a blanket (I was even sitting next to the fire and was still cold).
Monday morning I’m getting ready for the day and I see a bag move up and down and I’m like “crap there is something inside the tent with me or under the tent.” As Justin takes the tent down and starts folding it up I see him trying to kick something and ask what it was, his response “a mouse!” HA it wasn’t a squirrel lol!  The mouse kept going back to the tent and we don’t want to bring it back with us. So I take Tempe over there thinking that she’ll chase it, nope she bites it lol.  Justin felt bad so he put it out of its misery and I walked back to the picnic table.  I hear “there is another one!” So we had two mice under our tent lol.  That mouse got away, which is probably a good thing I know a little dog that would want to play with it lol. It seemed like the weather got cooler and cooler with each day. Each meal brought certain entertainment, squirrels mating, squirrels chasing each other, birds eating Tempe’s food. Sunday night I heard the same noises and J said it was the squirrels and I believed it. I love being up in the mountains, I remember camping every year with my family.
Enjoy the pictures!

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Its so cute!!

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This bird is so pretty!

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Love, love this guy!

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DSCN4344 We saw a mom and a baby moose!!

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I had fun taking pictures of the fire.

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Did you know that if you burn the wrapper of a Andi’s Mint the fire burns green for a little bit? No? Well it does!  We learned that a few years ago while camping with some of J’s family.

 

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The hole in the air mattress

Windstorm and Birthday Cards

A week ago I had gotten an alert on my phone that we were under a sever thunderstorm warning (if you know me I love thunderstorms, I really miss the monsoon seasons in Arizona).  I laughed it off and sent a picture of it to Justin and Marce and told them “Yeah right! I don’t believe it.”  Not more then 10 minutes later Marce texts back and says “I am starting to believe it.”  I look outside and its pretty windy.  So I start believing it a little.  I go back to working on my digital scrap-booking and get another text 20 minutes later from Marce saying “hey I like your new trampoline.”  I was so confused so I look in the front and nothing, look in the back and this is what I saw.

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Our neighbors trampoline that lives across the ally

I went outside and took a picture awhile later Justin walks in and I tell him to come look outside and he goes “Is the fence down again?” (The old looking fence used to be a building and the last time we had a bad wind storm half of it was down.) He came and looked, I was telling him how it was angled it would have hit our neighbors on the other side and he goes “nope, if the tree wasn’t there it would have hit our house.”
After the storm (well wind and rain (darnit)) we went to go get dinner when we saw the owner and the neighbor a house down trying to figure out how to take it down we decided to stay and help.  Marce, her mom and her boy came out and told us that she saw the trampoline go over the fence roll a few times and then flew into the tree.  We are so glad that it didn’t hit anyone’s car or house.  The owner kept apologizing and we kept telling him that it is okay no harm was done.
The corn, squash, and the cucumbers blew >> that way and if the tomatoes weren’t in the metal tomato holders they would have blown that way also.  Saturday the corn start standing up straight again until a few nights ago now they are blown the other way lol.

We’ve gotten lots of green beans a few squash, okra, a few cucumbers and radishes (we planted more last month) from it a few days ago.  I even noticed we have little green tomatoes and 2 ears of corn.

I have decided to start making birthday cards for my nephews/niece for the birthday. Little Braxton was the first for me to do it.  I’m am so glad he loved it!  I made one for Marce’s little boy and now I’m starting one for little Thomas.
Here is the one for Marce’s little boy, his name goes under “happy birthday”.

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Its been awhile.

Its been awhile since I’ve updated our blog! Sorry!!

I’ll update everyone!
In February we found out that Brandon and Stephanie was pregnant with twins.  I was super happy for them, but I was mad with Heavenly Father.   I had the thoughts to yell and scream and cry at him, but I didn’t.  (We heard about it Sunday Night). Monday I called my mom and talked her about what I was feeling.  She told me that she’d pray for me that I wouldn’t get pregnant but that I would get an answer to my prayers.  Tuesday I called my dad and talked to him about it.  He told me that my life right now was like Job (in the Bible) and how he had everything he ever wanted then he lost it, everyone told him to curse God.  He never did!  He was blessed 10 fold because of it.  My dad went on saying that if I curse God for our situation we wouldn’t be blessed.  I was like “Dad I won’t curse Him, I just wanted to yell.”  He went on telling me that yelling at Him is just like cursing him, he told me that I will be blessed 20 fold if I do what the Lord wants me to do. I had been praying in my mind and heart that I would know I would be a mother in this life, its in my patriarchal blessing that I would be a mother. I finally broke down and ask J for a blessing Wednesday night before we went to bed.  At the end of the blessing J paused and said “Motherhood is part of the plan He has for you.”  I started crying.  I knew that was an answer to my many, many prayers.

In May my parents made a trip up here to visit.  My dad’s first time ever visiting in the 8 years that we’ve lived here and my mom’s 3rd full visit.  (My mom has been up here twice before but only for 1 full day.)  They were going to bring up my organ that my grandmother gave me but we all felt that it would have be another trip and they’d just bring my mom’s car.  They came Sunday May 17 and we tried to cram a lot of fun activities in the few days they had here.  That night we went and showed them the boat dock and the walking path a few blocks from our house. 

Tempe sure did love having them come and visit!

Monday we went to the Buffalo Bill Museum.  It was amazing!  My first time ever going!  We have decided that when we don’t have the cat anymore we are going to try to get everyone to come up here and go all together since my brother in laws would love the gun area and my nephews would love the animal area.   

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For dinner we took them to Shiki’s its a Japanese restaurant in Cody.  Many of you know I am not a fan of seafood at all, well I only like certain things.  BUT I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE their sushi!


She did figure out how to use the chopsticks after awhile :D.

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The next day we had our awesome neighbor/friend and her little boy come over for lunch and play.  After that we started dinner in the crockpot and went up the mountain.

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We came back down put the funeral potatoes in the oven while J went and to see if he could get our tire fixed.  (The sucky thing about that is that a few months before we went to Laramie to see our friends daughter get baptized and we had to replace all 4 tires).  They wouldn’t be able to replace it till Thursday so we used my parents car the rest of the time they were here.  That night we went over to Brandon and Stephanie’s house for dinner so my parents could meet Stephanie and Cecily.  We had ham and funeral potatoes, YUMMY!

Wednesday Justin had a dentist apt the next day in Cody so we got in their car and went to Cody again.  We dropped J off and my parents and I walked down main-street and may or may not have bought lots of stuff.  A few hours later J texted to let me know he was ready to be picked up.  After picking him up we went to Walmart to get his prescription filled and get a deadbolt for our back door.  While waiting for his prescription we (Justin didn’t eat anything, he wasn’t hungry) ate Subway.  When we got home we had the Jolley’s come over and visit for a few hours!  So Glad my parents got to meet them.

The next day they left.  It was hard on me, I wanted them to stay longer.
Friday night after J got off work we set out to go to Utah to visit with my sister and her family for the weekend.

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He’s going to be such a great father!

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This this is actually super high (and knowing me I am afraid of hights) I went almost to the top.  Got to the 4th section (right before the top) and had enough.  I told myself to just keep going since I am almost there but I was freaking myself out so I had to get down.

The following Sunday we left.  We had to go a different route because the Wind River Canyon was closed due to rock, mud slides.  We didn’t get home till super late that night.

I’ll update more later!

Bring on the new year!!

Yes I know this is 3 months late, but better late then never right?!?

January came and went.  I’m starting to think that the months are flying by super fast now.  I’m not the primary chorister anymore.  After a few months of doing it, it didn’t get any easier for me to stand up in front of the kids.  I prayed and prayed for help, I knew He called me there for a reason and I feel bad that my nerves got the  best of me, and after talking to the bishop about it he released me.  But I gotta say I love my new callings!!  They kept me in primary as the 9-11 year olds teacher and the primary activity day leader.  For the activity day there is another lady who is also there that has some really fun ideas for the girls.  I’m excited to see how the year goes.

February came and went just about as fast as January.  We learned that Brandon and Stephanie are pregnant again but with twins!  We are excited for them and know they will do great and that Cecily will be an awesome big sister.  I have been praying out loud, in my heart, mind that I would know that I would be a mother.  I know in my Patriartical blessing it says I will.  After a few days of hearing Brandon and Stephanies news I asked J for a blessing and I got my answer.  “Motherhood is part of the plan He has for you.”  I cried.   I was so thankful for that answer, I was so thankful for Him hearing my crys, hearing my paryers and listening to my heart and answering.  I also know we aren’t the only ones praying for us.  My family is, J’s family is, close friends are.  We feel those prayers and we are so thankful for them.  Those prayers are what gets us through the rough times.   I know without a doubt that I will be a mother, when, I don’t know but I’m not going to worry about it anymore.  I’m going to try to do the best I can to do what the Lord has asked of me, try to be good at my callings, try to be a better wife.  I want the blessings of motherhood, so I’m going to do what I can to get that blessing!

A few weeks ago at Church the bishop got up and said that if every Temple Recommend holder went up to the Temple once a month they would have to build us a new Temple here.   Last week I told J that we needed to go to Billings and he said “to the Temple”.  I was like “uhm, if you want to.” He goes “you don’t have to if you don’t want to.”  I then asked him if he wanted to and without hesitation he said “Yes”.  I knew we needed to go it had been quite awhile since the last time we had gone.  I texted Meredith and asked if she and Cliff would want to go.  She said she would.  That whole week satan worked on me HARD!!  My ear started to hurt again like it was infected, I would get bad headaches, I would get nauseated, my stomach/back hurt.  On top of all that, that week we were busy busy busy!!   Sunday Justin went home teaching to 1 family, Monday we had the Jolly’s over, Tuesday Stephanie and Cecily came over to help me make suckers and dinner for our neighbor, Justin also went home teaching to the other family. Wednesday we were able to rest, Thursday I went over to sister Petersons home to figure out the year for activity days, for dinner we had the Eardly’s over.  Friday they dropped their little dog off so we could watch her for the weekend.  I liked being busy.  I got a blessing Thursday night because I knew I needed to go to the Temple but satan was working overtime on me.  Saturday morning came and I didn’t get much sleep since the dog we are watching was walking around since it was a new place.  I also woke up with a super bad sore throat, but I prayed that it would go away because I knew I needed to go today.  We went to go pick Meredith up and got to the Temple 1 hour early.

I have to say that I’m so glad we went.  While in the Celestial room I remembered something my dad said in a blessing when my grandmother died.  “She will be waiting for you with open arms.” I imagined what it would be like in Heaven.  Everyone dressed in white and hugging each other.  I could see in my mind my grandma with open arms, I got teary eyed.  I’m so glad we went!  All the stresses from that week, all my burdens, all my worries seemed to be gone.  Of course as soon as I stepped out of the Temple I could feel them again, but they were lighter.

I’m ready for this year to get started to see what is in store for us!  Maybe this year we will be a little closer to having our family grow!  We’ll just have to wait and see!!

 

Christmas, Road trip, Baby blessing, and more…

Its been a crazy few months.  I don’t mind it being crazy!  We learned in November that Stacey and Jace were going to bless their little one the weekend after Christmas.  We tried and tried to think of a way to go down so that way we could be part of it.  But we couldn’t come up with the funds.  We had already made a trip down for the 4th of July and used up most of J’s vacation.  I called my dad to let him know that we wouldn’t make it down.  He asked to talk to Justin and talked to him for awhile, when they got done my dad told me that J had something to tell me.  I hang up the phone with my dad and J goes on to tell me that my parents were willing to pay our way down because it needed to happen.  Everyone needed to be there.  I called Stacey up and told her that we had a change of plans and that we would be able to go.  She was super excited.

Noon on Christmas day we went over to his parents house to open gifts and eat lunch.  It had snowed so much that Brandon and Stephanie (Justin’s brother and sister in law) got snowed in so we were unable to see them and say goodbye to them and Cecily.  We said our goodbyes, came back home packed the car, got Tempe and started our way down to Arizona.  30 minutes after starting to drive it started snowing and it didn’t ever stop until we hit Albuquerque New Mexico.  The roads were horrible going down, but I know without a doubt that we were watched over.  It took us so much longer to get to my parents house but we finally did.  We arrived at 7:30 the following night and we were so done with being in the car, even Tempe (who loves to go for drives) was done.  I’m glad we were able to go down as well because then I was able to give my grandma her scrapbook that I had made.  SHE LOVED IT!!  Even made her and other people cry.

The next day Myself (Kim Korth) and her family came over and we got to hang out with them for a few hours.  I finally got to meet her cute little girls!  We went to lunch and then the duckponds.   After an hour or so we had to go back to my parents house to get ready to go take family pictures.  IMG_5488

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Sunday was the baby blessing and we went to the central church where we would always have the Martin Thanksgiving.  It was a beautiful blessing and I’m so glad we were able to make it!

Monday came and we had to leave.  We weren’t ready to be in the car again but Justin had to be back on Wednesday.  The roads weren’t as bad as they were coming back and I’m glad it didn’t take as long to get home.

Help us find our miracle!

As many of you know we are trying to adopt.  We aren’t going through LDS services anymore, but we are still trying to adopt.   We won’t get our name out there unless you help us! SO PLEASE HELP!

We’ve been praying hard and my knees have bruises.  My heart aches to be a mother and to have Justin be a father, he’ll make the best dad!  I see him with our nephews, nieces, cousins and kids that I babysit and I want him to be a father.